RECALL LITTLE LOVE STORY

Try guess, when ladies talking to their close friends, what’s hot topic normally they love to talk about to each other? For your info guys, it would be more to their love story or boyfriend(s). Most of it. So just to remind you that, this entry would be more to a lady’s story based on true story of myself. I seldom talk about my boyfriend to someone else. We have lots of secrets which only two of us knew, and some of my statement here might be weird but it’s true.

How long have you been together?

We have no specific date when did we start to be a couple but until to date, approximately almost 5 years.

How do you know each other?

I was a student who studying in a University in Kelana Jaya branch 5 years ago while he was a staff who working in the same University in Kota Kinabalu branch. So will you think that we knew each other from that campus? No. Nobody knew that we actually knew each other from Internet. Yeah most of things and people in Internet can’t be trust, but we are 1 of the proof that works. We had joined a forum – sabahan.net and we knew each other from there. Chatted on the YM for quit sometimes and we met in KL for the 1^st time when he attended a meeting there. Since then, he interested to be more closer to me. But to tell you honestly, sorry to say that, now I’m not going to entertain whoever I don’t know anymore. Even in facebook, I’m not going to accept people whom I don’t know.

Back to the story, we were contacting regularly and met him every time I came back to Sabah for my school break. To be frank, I had another Sabahan boyfriend in KL at the time. Ever happened that, one sent me to Terminal 2 airport in KK and another one fetched me from KLIA airport. Cool or cruel? I’m actually only confused and didn’t know who to choose.

We were in the long distance relationship for almost 1 year and he had a very strong standpoint. He did anything to win me and requested me to transfer back to Sabah. Some people said, if you love him/her then let him/her go. But honestly, that statement must depend on the situation and sometimes it not suitable. I amazed with his sincerity. He did anything to let me stick with him and yeah at the end I’d transferred to Sabah and left everything there.

I took almost 1 year to use to my life in Sabah. Up & down in a relationship is common. My family smelt our relationship and they don’t agree with it. Reasons were, I was still a student and we are not same culture and background. I’d fight for few years and at the end my family stopped saying anything when they realized that they can’t stop me. I’d cried a lot for that and also jealousy. Ever kedapatan lots of time but we had gone through everything. We discussed a lot and tolerant a lot. Thank god both of our love life getting better and stronger. We supported each other a lot, since I was a student, until I started working with a very small salary, and until I have a good career today. He resigned from the said University last year and started his own business with my support (capital & courage) and thank god everything is running smoothly so far.

We are serious in our relationship and once again, I’d bring him to my hometown last weekend to meet my parents for the 1^st time. Yes we had been together for almost 5 years and it's 1^st meeting with my parents. Thank god again, everything is smooth and my parents happy with us. I was surprised and happy that my family has no objection anymore. I’m not rich but I’m happy with my life now.

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We seldom take photos together. The 1st photo we taken was 3 years after we had been couple and to date, we had taken not more than 10 photos. The above is not the 1st photo anyway..

He is mature. 10 years older than me, I've grew up a lot while with him. He is sporty and an ex-state professional footballer & futsal player.

This is just my opinion:

Most of lady friends always said that they love money and prefer to marry to a rich guy for their life. 8 out of 10 ladies will say that. Sorry to say but for me, I don’t agree and will not choose that way. It will be more fun & interesting to have someone who can go through the hardship together with you until both of you success.

Money is important but I’m not looking for only money in my life. No point if your husband is rich but your marriage life is suck. Tell me who is happy with divorce? Some people said “cannot be no money, what should the kids eat and wear?” LOL. Money is important, but these kinds of ladies talk only ler.. They want a rich guy, but the money not priority for future kids but actually for themselves to spend. If really think a stable financial for future kids, both have to earn and save money not only push the responsibility to husband.

Still I will choose happiness. Money can be found anywhere and anytime. Quality of minded is far more important here. I’m not going to accept a job that needs me to work like hell with RM10K salary. And I’m not going to agree my partner to have such job too. It’s ok if it is RM10K salary but still have free time for me and not stressful. I choose simple life and I prefer to spend time relaxing together with love one especially if I have my own family. I’m happy that my boyfriend is someone whose priority is to stick and spend time with me too. But yeah we are in long distance relationship again now because of our career.

Sometimes I just feel pity to those guys to have a partner who love to push and force them to work more for her to spend. They said it as ‘to have a good life’ but why should torturing your love one? Some people already have a good life but they want more and I don’t understand. Showing off that they’ve been pampered. Pity the guys.

Some people might say that I’m jealous because I have no rich boyfriend. LOL. I don’t need that and I’m proud enough to myself. I’d been trained by my family to get anything for myself with my own money and my own effort from a small thing until a big property. My family left none property to me, I have to buy my own if I want one including any deposit and yes I’m looking one for myself. And my boyfriend had told me that if we get marry, he will not left any property for me, all of his property will go to our future kids. I accept that and I’m earning my own money for myself, at least little of saving. Whatever been given from my family or boyfriend, it's bonus to me, I appreciate and receive it with thanks.

Really thank god, I realize that I’m luckier than most of people out there. I’m happy with my life but it doesn’t mean I satisfied easily. I appreciate everything around me and no matter what, my priority is happiness.

DO THINGS FROM MY HEART

Condolence to my boss and his family. May his mom’s soul rest in peace. Don’t worry boss, we will become good girls and good boys in office within this few days.

Someone walk around in the office this morning asking for donation to my boss. I’m the 3^rd person donating and I’d asked them why should I write the amount I donate. Their answer is, it’s easier to check the money whether it’s tally or not. Ok then.. Afternoon, they’d passed the money and list to me to keep after everyone in the office has donated. I feel ashamed once I saw the list, I’m the one who direct under my boss but donated the smallest amount! Hmmm malu juga but here is my reason:

1. Donation is sincere from our heart, donate and do charity how much we capable, not helping people till we ourselve getting poor, and not for winning a good image by donating or show off that we had donated a big amount.

2. Money can’t buy a life or make a dead person back alive. This kind of donation only a small help for the basic preparation of funeral.

3. There are much more poor people out there who really need help.

4. I still think that we are not suppose to count on and stated the amount of donation. We suppose to receive any amount from people.

5. And I think that it's better spend time with person who is down rather than giving money to them. People will forget what you say and what you did, but people will not forget how you make them feel.

Well, it's all depends to an individu. Some people might really capable to donate more to lots of parties. As this case of mine, I can’t stop people from saying something (either good or bad) about me. Don’t be influence by what people said and what people think about us, just do whatever that we think is right.

I KNOW CHINESE

Once again, I just want to refer to this post. I think some computer might only can saw boxes but actually I had wroten chinese in that posting. As I said, some of my x-colleague including my x-boss in my previous work place only knew that I can speak Mandarin after I'd worked there more than 1 year.

And now in my current work place, most of the staffs knew that I can speak chinese but they were so shocked. One of my boss and some of the staff from KL said: "I heard that you can speak chinese." So??? Is there anything wrong that I can speak Mandarin? I know how to read and I even can write some more. I'm tired of those statements and those kind of questions. It will always be the 2nd question after asking my name.
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Hmmm.. Yeah my full name has no chinese surename coz my dad had modified little bit of it. At the same time my Bahasa is really fluent and I always try to speak English without chinese slang. And yeah I know.. I don't look like a chinese. I don't like to show off that I know chinese. I only will show it off when I attend interview.

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Once again, I just want to say that, be careful with your environment and stop saying something bad using other languages. Eventhough I don't really have chinese look but I have 70% of chinese blood and my life is more to chinese culture, even my boyfriend said that I'm more to a chinese minded. It just that, I like & have more non-chinese than chinese friends around me, and even my boyfriend is non-chinese.

I'm proud with who I am. Thanks to my parents. I get a job easier with languages I know and yes I will let my future kids enter into chinese school too. It's really can 'cari makan' rather than attending a Unduk Ngadau contest. So what about you people?

GENERAL KNOWLEDGE

Let's learn something for our general knowledge. Do you know that..

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There are about one billion cattle in the world of which 200 million are in India.

The heaviest crustacean ever found was a lobster weighing 19kg (42lb), caught in 1934.

African elephants only have four teeth to chew their food with.

There are about 54 million dogs in the US, and Paris is said to have more dogs than people.

An annoyed camel will spit at a person.

The pig is rated the fourth most intelligent animal but are mentioned only twice in the Bible.

Shark are immune to all known diseases.

All polar bears are left-handed.

Butterflies taste with their feet.

Elephants are the only animals that cannot jump.

The muscles in your heart have the strength to shoot your blood 10 meters in the air.

Humans and Dolphins are the only animals that have sex for pleasure.

It is impossible to sneeze with your eye’s open.

A pig orgasm lasts 30 minutes.

Mosquitoes have teeth.

Statistically, people are more afraid of spider than they are of dying.

Starfish have no brains.

The body’s strongest muscle is our tongue.

New Zealand is home to 4 million people and 70 million sheep.

A cockroach can live 9 days without its head. It only dies because it cannot eat.

The average woman is 5 inches shorter than the average man.

You big toes have two bones each while the rest have three.

It takes food seven second to get from your mouth to your stomach.

Men without hair on their chest are more likely to get cirrhosis of the liver than man with hair.

Your thumb is the same length with your nose.

When the English settles landed in Australia, they noticed a strange animal that jumped extremely high and far. They asked the aboriginal people using body language and signs trying to ask them about this animal. They responded with: “Kan Ghu Ru” the English then adopted the word kangaroo. What the aboriginal people were really trying to say was “we don’t understand you”, “Kan Ghu Ru”.

During historic civil wars, when troops returned without any casualties, a writing was put up so all can see which read “0 Killed”. From here we get the expression “O.K” which means all is good.

In ancient England, people could not have sex without consent from the King. When people wanted to have a child, they had to solicit permission to the monarchy. In turn they would supply a plaque to hang on their door when they had sexual relations. The plaque read.. “Fornication Under Consent of the King” (F.U.C.K). This is the origin of the word.

Happy Learning.

WORLD NO BOUNDARIES

Well, I was surprise to found out this.

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When I started up this blog, I only can find my blog listed on the page 4 of google search by typing "Enjoyable Life" on the search bar. Then last few months, I could find my blog listed on the first page but it was not the 1st ranking. And today, IT IS on the 1st ranking in the 1st page when I search "Enjoyable Life" on the google search bar! Wow..

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When I search "Enjoyable Life" from yahoo, it only appear on the second page. :) Thanks readers. I'm nobody, I know it will change but if you keep on clicking my blog, my ranking will stay on the highest.

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Share this cool video clip with you. I love this version, where a song been sang by all over the world. Stand By Me and enjoy..

IT'S ALL ABOUT WORK PLACE

Don't know where to start. Yeah seldom draft a blog posting this recently, my mind is keep on thinking something else. xoxo.. I just feel like I'm really busy since I started working in a new place but it's actually not, only my feeling and my mind keep on saying that I'm busy. 1 week of my working days in new place completed. Still lots of thing have to learn and to understand somehow I'll just try to explain little bit of my working environment based on this '1 week'.

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Expected question, people (especially x-coleague) will ask: "How's your new working environment?" Overall, it is good and I'm happy. Working in every where will be the same, no where is perfect and there must be pro and contra.

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I miss my old coleague. Honestly, I'd met a big group of good friends there. Age is average with me while my current company, especially in my department, all are veterant. I repeat, ALL ARE VETERANT. All of them are friendly, it just that yeah I'm new, and tak ngam cerita. Well you know, young people always have a different topic with older generation. But I believe by joining their group, I will be more mature.

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Because of my department all are veterant, they do their work very professional, very good team work and I believe that I will learn more things by joining their group.

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Because of they are professional, all of them have a very BIG RM of salary that shocked me. My salary is just an ant compare to theirs but I'm surprise that in certain things, I have bigger power than them.

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Bigger power? Means, bigger responsibility which stressed me. And I know I'm going to have more and more works.

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My boss is good. He don't scold any staff and we freely to do anything. He say nothing even a single word but surely, he will write something in eveluation form later. hehehe.. I think he has a very good and smart strategy to control his staff.

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Because of every staff are veterant, we doesn't need and have no spy in our office. What I mean here is, in some company there's always someone just like a satellite or CCTV, will busy body or love to make complaint to upper management. I believe this kind of things only happen in a company that has lots of young staffs and those who love to seek boss's attention. Seriously. Jealousy among young people is stronger, they like to do complaint but actually they are the one who also will take advantage when they have opportunity! It just that they have no upportunity, then they don't satisfied. Common! I'd ever been warned lots of time in my previous company, I followed the rules but at the end they did worse! I'd threw away my respect on those people and what they did is actually annoying. Those kind of people will go no way. Pandai cakap org tapi sendiri pon buat. Berani buat berani tanggung maa.. We do then we will responsible la. You are not boss not even HR but you just like to control others and act like a boss. Blah lah.. The more you control, the more people will fed up and broke the rules.

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I'm a new staff, but they expected that I knew to do everything in the company. Gosh.. That stressed me too. Everyone in my previous company really have the patient to teach me in something but now it is not.

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I surprised that I'd been given a very good place to sit. I suppose to show you the photo but my camera had been borrowed by someone so I only able to upload here later.

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When I worked outside before, I always went to shopping mall. Now I'm working on upper floor of shopping mall, I never feel that I want to see things inside a shopping mall anymore. But that is good for me.

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I like my current job somehow, I still really miss my old work place. I miss everyone there, learned lot of things there before and I know I will learn more things in my new work place. Really thanks to my previous company, I did and handle everything there before, learned lots of technical things and I'd just win few compliments in my current work place just within this 1 week. I'm proud and all my ex-coleague suppose to feel proud too coz they are the one who trained me.

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And, I'm really thanks to my bf and my family too especially my siblings. I'm the one who get a new better job but they are the one who the most excited and happy. They'd adviced and support me a lot. Well people, it's true. We are strictly not recomended to work for a company for only a short period (only few months, record not nice) and not recomended to work in one place for too long time. We must change the environment and for us to learn more new things. Well, I understand that's only if we still young.

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Anyway, thanks god. I know I'm lucky. Just wanna say that, everyone of us have to improve our life by keep on looking for a good opportunity. Yes sometime opportunity will come itself but most of the time, we should look for it. 10% is luck and 90% is effort. If you still young, go apply and look for a better job. Do it but don't rush. Once you apply, if you get it then it's your. If you don't, it's not yours, ignore it and try other places. Take time and for sure there will be something better for you. Good luck.

IT'S ONE YEAR..

12 Jan 2009, I received a phone call around 4pm from a coleague in Sandakan, asking me another friend's house phone number. I gave her the number. At the same day mid night, lot's of people called me but I'd fall asleep and didn't pick up any phone call. When I woke up in the morning, I saw lots of missed call and few SMSes. I'd cried once I read it. It was a bad news telling me that she had passed away on the spot on a car accident on her way from KK to Tawau. Actually she supposed to report duty in Tawau for her new company the next day but people in Tawau waiting for her that night and she didn't show up. And now, my new company is dealing with that company which she supposed to report duty. It recall a lot of things and I feel so hurted..

She is the one who came to fetch me lot of time for most of the function or outdoor activities, she brough me to functions when she got two tickets not her husband, she was my x-coleague who sat next to me, she was my roommate during our Indonesia trip, she was someone who really suportive to everyone, I knew all her kids and the last I met her was 2 days before the incident.

Every of her friends knew that she is a nice person. Yeah quite wondering, normally a nice person will go first while people with black heart will always stay alive. Somehow, we suppose to be thankful. She had do lots of good thing for us and we are not suppose to ask for more. And one thing that I'd learned from her case, we can't be over granted and keep on pending something to do it tommorrow. Make others happy while still alive coz a dead person will not feel happy with a good thing you've done for them anymore.

I'd dreamed of her lots of time, one year has passed but everything still fresh in my mind. Yeah I miss her somehow live must go on. Thanks for her ever came into my life for a while and do appreciate the one who still alive. May her soul rest in peace and always in memory..

I DON'T BELIEVE

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Biggest issue at the moment. Every one knew it. It's too late Malaysia, things had happen and people angry. Even people forgive you, there will still be a scar. I'm not a Christian but I'm really angry too. Enough for the drama, well done and now you can go to hell. Bring along your ma chai, we doesn't need you and them. I'm proud to be a Sabahan, and will only tell foreigner my origin is Borneo.

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I still don't believe that I had resigned. I feel so sad to leave everyone there as a coleague and friends but me and them managed "didn't cry". It was nearly but we didn't. Things must move on and I have dreams to chase on. Sure will plan to meeting them outside soon. Passed outstanding & everything? I don't think so. It's too hurry. 24 hours notice and I get penalty but I'm lucky that the new company will pay it for me. Will start working on Monday in different office with different coleagues. Honestly I'm not ready. Just hope that everyone especially the bosses there is "good" and everything will be fine. Taking more rest for this weekend and imagine everything is beautiful and peaceful.. ^_^ Sabah Boleh bah..

ESPECIALLY FOR MKA GROUP

My love in MKA

I still remember, the first day I worked here, Principle of MKA Group Mr. Melvin called me together with one of the x-staff into his room 8am in the morning. Mr. Melvin told me: “There is a lot of great people in this company and do learn from them.”

He is true. Everyone in this company is great not only as a colleague but also as a friend. Thanks to everyone for that, I’ve learned a lot of things here and thanks for your trust and friendship. It’s hard for me to leave somehow everyone of us have to move on and improve our life whenever there is opportunity.

Sorry for every mistake I’ve ever done, sorry if I’ve ever hurt anyone of you. Keep in touch, you know where and how to look for me. I’m not popular and I’m not somebody but I’m glad and lucky to know everyone of you. My last day here will be 09^th January 2010, I’m resigning. Don’t cry for me Argentina. xoxo.. Good luck everyone, god bless you, be happy & may all your dreams come true. Cheers ~ ;)

SILLY OPINION AS A CITIZEN

What is 1 Malaysia? I don’t know. I don't see it. As I always said, I’m proud to be a Sabahan. I never said I’m proud to be a Malaysian. Anyway, this is only my own view and my own opinion. And just be ready coz this post might be boring. LOL.

Heard some people discussed about the politic in Malaysia. Most of Sabahan might ever heard the hot issue, about the independent day for Malaysia (31 August 1957) and Malaysia Day (16 Sept 1963). Malaysia Day only been recognized last few months and it will only be declare as a public holiday in Malaysia starting this year. Honestly, I’ve met lots of people never realize that 16 Sept is Malaysia Day because 16 Sept been declared as Sabah TYT’s Birthday all this while till they changed and highlighted it recently. Somehow, check on your calendar! Most of calender still not stated the mentioned public holiday in 2010 calendar. Is this 1 Malaysia? Malaysia doesn't know it! Poor Sabah, Malaysia doesn’t remember and doesn’t see you.

Oh yes the first thing I do every year when I received new calender is,

check out holidays.

Sabah only! LOL. Remember, other states have no holidays for that day! :))

And now, every Sabah citizen talk about the proprietary right for Sabah. Yes lot of things in Sabah must go through Federal Government in Peninsular, Sabahan just feel like only a stepchild in Malaysia and not satisfied in a lot of things. Saying that the minister in Peninsular taken a lot of profit from Sabah, stepped on us and just let Sabah faced the hardcore poor situation. Don’t ask me how true is that coz I’m still observing it but that is really in Sabah Citizen's mind. I’m not starting the anger here, it just that this is what Sabah citizen really feel and always become a topic in any coffee shop.

Well, I just feel like we should not put all the blame to only one side. Sabah had been tight with an agreement which been sign in 1963, and Sabah only can change the rules or be independent from ‘Tanah Melayu’ after 50 years from 1963. It’s a legal black and white there and it’s our own previous citizen’s and leader’s mistake, not educated enough and may be lack of experience. Rejected to join Philippine and Indonesia is a good choice but NOT, for signing that agreement which tight us for 50 years. Yes should sign but some condition in it actually not protecting us.

Don’t simply put your hand in a box which you don’t know what’s inside. The moral here is, signing agreement or contract has only protecting one side. No matter what agreement or contract we get, do read it properly every single word, think deeply and try not to tight ourself for a very long time with it. Example, people offered you a good job by signing contract. If there is a period given, try to negotiate to get a shorter period coz there is a lot of things will happen even within a month that you will never know. If you are really good and the company is good, for sure they will come back to look for you and renew your contract. If otherwise, you can run away easily. So what to worry? And be in mind that, prices for everything are kept on changing every year! So any ‘RM’ stated in your contract or agreement should be change every year, not tighten in the same amount of ‘RM’ for few years!

Shared with you this story, I was same like most of other Sabahan too before, thinking that Peninsular grabbed all the profit from Sabah and agree to ban outsider to come to Sabah invest any business here. There is one time when I voiced it out, one of my friend who is originally from Pahang, married with a Sabahan lady and currently staying in Sabah don’t agree with me. He told me that,

“Sabah should not be stupid & snobbish (bodoh sombong). You don’t have any skill, facilities, money and even big machine to operate here therefore your state imported professional/investors from outside to train you here otherwise I’m sure until today your state will have nothing such as Oil and Gas Plant (Loji Minyak/Petroleum). After we help you to build it, then you said we grabbed profit from it. If we never come, those raw materials will still stay under your land remain untouched until today and your state have no income. How you local people want to win those outsider, that one you have to be clever. Give those outsiders contract and higher pay, after the end of the contract, don’t renew it and let them go back to their country while you guys already learn the skill from them and now you can run it yourself.”

What did he told me made me opened up my mind wider and I will always remember that. I do agree with him but what did our leaders do? Did they protect their state or just protect themselves? No idea and we can feel that the tail of the wave are keep on hitting us. Outsider still coming in. We still under.. training? We can't run it ourselves yet? Are we so stupido?

Thanks to that friend anyway to let me think far. So people, always twist our mind and be more tricky. If you won’t tricky, people will play tricky on you. May be we unable to change our state but at least we could change our minded and own life.

I don't know since when I'm into politic things, but Cheers for Sabah ~

LIVE HEALTHY

I do concern you. Let’s come have a good health for this entire year babe.. ;) I get this from email, but I know it is very true.

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Brain Damaging Habits:

- No breakfast. This is true, people who skip breakfast always blur, lost focus & slow pick up.

- Over eating. Over eating will damage your stomach and together with your brain.

- Smoking. I know smokers will not believe this. xoxo..

- High Sugar Consumption. I believe high salt consumption is bad too.

- Air Pollution. Brain is the largest oxygen in our body. City air is polluted, out of city is the best.

- Sleep Deprivation. Long term deprivation from sleep will accelerate the death of brain cell.

- Head covered while sleeping. This is common sense, covered your head will increase carbon dioxides than oxygen.

- Working your brain during illness. Tell your boss, MC is better than working during illness. LOL.

- Lacking in stimulating though. Work out your brain. Even blogging have to think a lot.

- Talking rarely. Oh yeah I talk rarely eh..

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Liver Damaging Habits:

- Sleeping too late and waking up too late. KL's time is later than Sabah.

- Not urinating in the morning. And, holding urination is unhealthy.

- Too much eating. Body will tired to work all the time for digestion.

- Skipping breakfast. Breakfast is the most important meal for a day.

- Consuming too much medication. Medicine is drugs. Drug is what? I don't know. LOL.

- Consuming too much preservatives, additives, food coloring and artificial sweetener. It's chemical.

- Consuming unhealthy cooking oil. Avoid to reuse cooking oil.

- Consuming raw (overly done) foods. Avoid overcook vege and avoid overnight meal.

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Top five cancer causing foods:

- Hot Dog. Well most of kids love hot dog. Advised not more than 12 hot dog per month.

- Processed meat and bacon. Bacon is more like western food, Asian seldom cook bacon.

- Doughnuts. Doughnuts made by white flour, sugar and hydrogenated oil, then fried in high temperature.

- French fries. It fried in high temperature.

- Chips, crackers and cookies. I though cookies are healthy but it actually same like crackers.

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While everyone celebrated the New Year countdown, one of my friend was laying down on the hospital bed for the New Year to come. She suffered from her breast cancer and done her operation successfully on 31^st December. I still haven’t managed to visit her, just able to pray for her to have a good health.

See people, we will never know what will happen to us. Even a doctor unable to answer what’s causing a breast cancer. Yeah this friend of mine married on her age 30+ and she has just having her second baby last year. Her second baby is still very small now. May be that is one of the fact, having a baby after age of 30 but be in mind people, every ladies have a very high possibilities deceived breast cancer.

Mind your healthy, eat healthy and love everyone around you while still not too late. Anything bad that we can avoid, avoid it. You can eat anything, you can smoke, you can get drunk but don’t too much and don’t be too often. Live healthy, because I'm sure there is someone who can’t afford to lose you. Think for your love one. Cheers~