Tuesday, April 20, 2010

WHERE IS MY GIFT?

I just want to share this and give some of my own opinion.
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Last weekend, I went back to my hometown and I'd been asked by one of my niece:
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Niece: "Aunt, where is my birthday gift?"
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Me: oppss.. I actually remembered his birthday but I didn't buy anything for him this time. Cover malu, "I err.. Hutang dulu. I'll give you on my next trip coming back."
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Niece: "Why u forgoten this time? U always remember my birthday every year."
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Me: "... ..."
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Oh my.. I feel sorry with what he said and feel. I never forget, I remember it every year, it just I didn't spend time to look for a gift this time. And he continued:
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"Aunt, u buy PSP for me as a birthday gift."
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What?!! Wow you see today's kids. They are more update on the technology and here's my view:
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I actually regret to teach and influenced my nieces to the technology in their early age. Since I was studied in IT field last time, I thought technology is good. I'd taught my family and encouraged them to buy a computer at home. The conclusion for today is, they can't live without a computer. The usage of the computer for them is only for playing game and online, that's it but they can't leave without it. Adult can understand that starring at computer too long is not good for eyes sight and health but child never listen and never bother about that.
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Now most of my niece requested their mum (my sis) buy a laptop for each of them and they'd requested a very powerful one tho. Do you think they use it for homework? No.. For homework only a small part and most of the time they play game and surfing internet. They requested a powerful one for them to install and run powerful 3D games. Now they know and surfing the internet themselve. But without any guide, no one knows what are they seaching and surfing! Doesn't that really worrying? They are not my child but I'm really worry. There are too many untrue things and people on the net, even me myself sometimes doesn't talk honest on the net. What for to talk honest to a stranger without seeing their face?
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There is more technology now adays but less communication. Everyone communicate via the technology but seldom meet face to face, even some people are more prefer to sit inside their house watching the screen (TV and computer) rather than go out talking to their neighbours. Yeah there are some people who don't know and don't bother whose their neighbours are, that's today's life style.
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And for me, keep in touch with our family via the technology is not enough. Just ask our parents, I'm sure they will be more prefer and happier if we can go back home to visit them instead of only call them through 3G or webcam. Of course some people might said that technology is the cheapest and easy way to communicate but for me, I prefer save my money for the fare to go back home. Yes I do include the fare in my monthly budget & expenses. It's our parents and family what, no harm to spend more for them. So do with our friends, it's better meeting face to face rather than just forwarding email, sms and greet on the facebook.
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Technology has the advantages for development but reallity, TV and computer are unhealthy and made people more lazier especially for small kids. Even online shopping can make us lazy but sadly we can't avoid, even in primary school have a computer class.
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I walked around the mall, looking for a gift for my niece but I get none. It's not because nothing sell in the mall but I've no idea and don't know what to give as you can see today's kids are not into sport, they are not into reading, they are not into activity, they are more to technology even read articles, play soccer, fishing, chess, ping pong, puzzle, farming, barbie doll game is all in the computer. It's more easier, not boring and doesn't need any moves..It's not healthy anyway and I'm still searching for a suitable gift. No I will not choose for a game or technology thingy for them.
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Cool war game is in the computer and today's kids are so good at it but what happened when the teenagers been sent to Khidmat Negara camp?
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They were crying and wanted to go home.

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

you have two highlights here:-

1) pampered kids with present. i had the same experience before. not with my niece or nephew, but cousins. every time i went back hometown, the little cousins will asked for gifts. from a small birthday gifts, souvenir gifts, to a prepaid reload, to a big ones like techs stuff... back then, i choose what kind of gift/ souvenir, but then it change to they choose their gift...
take my advice, before any damage happen, you better stop it. it's not good for them.
if u dont stop, u will be their 2nd source to get things if their parents didnt fulfilled their needs. or maybe it's their parents hoping u to pamperred their kids.

2) wrong usage of IT and technology. poor kids today, they'll missed all the wonderful experience which they can only can gain outside their house. though we cannot blame the parents. it's actually a good step to introduce the kids from an early age on IT and tech. however, the direction went wrong when the PC games were introduced. that's where the parents must take part and get involved. kids at certain age must not get involved with a PC games. parents, be stern !

Wiskies said...

1) I think around last year or past few years, I gave away present for the kids, when they opened it, they didn't show happy face. Left the things everywhere & never touch it again, until the smaller baby who don't know anything get it & broke it when nobody noticed. Of course not all, some of them did appreciate it. I feel sad, I remember that when I was a kid, I only received present once in few years. & I've ever met some other kids (not my relative), they even never received a single gift from anybody in their life. Lucky kids never understand it.

2) today's kids are more cleverer than their parents & learn fast. even some parents never touch computer, hp, PSP, PS2 before, just like my parents & some of my siblings. They're not sure what is good & what is bad for kids, just put every hope to the shcool. when their kids start to learn themselve, of coz pc game & chatting with new invisible friends are the most attractive.